Girls in Bars
October 30th 2006 04:37
They say that men are likely to approach the woman in the bar who looks like she is having the most fun.
Is this true?
Of course, having fun has its own benefits, and no body really likes the girl (or boy for that matter) who hangs out in the corner whinging about life when they're supposed to be out enjoying themselves, but does enjoying oneself serve a larger purpose?
I find it hard to believe that men approach the girl who looks like she's having the most fun for a number of reasons. First, i have some friends, who shall remain nameless, who are used to (and good at) making their emotional distress a beacon for men. This corresponds to a conflicting truism that says men love to feel like heros and rescue girls. Therefore, the girl who looks like she's having the most fun is probably intimidating to men as she is not giving off "rescue me" vibes. This indimidation factor is the second reason I have difficulty believing that fun somehow corresponds to being picked up. Everyone likes to feel like they have their life under their own control. And, when looking for a shag, or a fling are we or are we not likely to want someone slightly less "put together" than ourselves so we can feel better about whatever place we're in?
The question here is a difficult one to pose because the answer seems decidedly awful, but is being in need of rescue more trendy than being the most fun in the room?
All you boys out there (and girls who are confident and pick up the men they want) weigh in on this one. Are you likely to approach the most fun-loving, well-liked, clearly-the-centre-of-attention, party-goer, or are you more likely to pick someone who looks like they're having around the same amount (or a little less) fun than yourself?
Is this true?
Of course, having fun has its own benefits, and no body really likes the girl (or boy for that matter) who hangs out in the corner whinging about life when they're supposed to be out enjoying themselves, but does enjoying oneself serve a larger purpose?
I find it hard to believe that men approach the girl who looks like she's having the most fun for a number of reasons. First, i have some friends, who shall remain nameless, who are used to (and good at) making their emotional distress a beacon for men. This corresponds to a conflicting truism that says men love to feel like heros and rescue girls. Therefore, the girl who looks like she's having the most fun is probably intimidating to men as she is not giving off "rescue me" vibes. This indimidation factor is the second reason I have difficulty believing that fun somehow corresponds to being picked up. Everyone likes to feel like they have their life under their own control. And, when looking for a shag, or a fling are we or are we not likely to want someone slightly less "put together" than ourselves so we can feel better about whatever place we're in?
The question here is a difficult one to pose because the answer seems decidedly awful, but is being in need of rescue more trendy than being the most fun in the room?
All you boys out there (and girls who are confident and pick up the men they want) weigh in on this one. Are you likely to approach the most fun-loving, well-liked, clearly-the-centre-of-attention, party-goer, or are you more likely to pick someone who looks like they're having around the same amount (or a little less) fun than yourself?
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