The Art of Text
February 7th 2007 07:28
I have not posted recently. Some may see this as neglect, some might see it as foreplay. For those of you prone to the latter interpretation...
The trend of today is text sex. Its not new (c'mon, Becks and his mysterious lover got caught exchanging their cheeky texts) but it has an allure far more intriguing than other mediums by which one can communicate their desire in an absentee fashion.
There is something inherently dirty about cyber-sex. Maybe its because its so often publicized as something that goes on between little children and the creeps who use them. Maybe its because it involves planning, or at the very least fortuidious timing--two people in front of computers, alone... No, for some reason cyber-sex in infinetely less attractive then text sex.
So too with phone sex. Phone sex, though less creepy then cyber-sex is overtly raunchy. I mean, you're on the telephone and you're supposed to be getting one another off, you're gonna have to be awfully graphic in your descriptions. Now some people like that, and if you're one of them, more power to ya, but some of us (yes, i'm including myself) are a little concerned with the "all talk no action" problem. Something more then description to back up all that talk....
Text sex, on the other hand, gets it just right. Its active, or rather, you can be active while doing it. As in, you're not chained to your computer all day. Your life can continue on in a normal fashion while exchaning cheeky, flirtatious, or even dirty messages with someone. No one is any the wiser. And most importantly its sustainable. Its about the luxury of foreplay not the exhausted climax. Its a game you can spread over hours, days, even weeks if you want. You can indulge after your morning coffee from work and not feel like a sex-starved maniac. Its lighthearted fun exchanged between *good* friends, lovers, partners, or relative strangers. Its an easy way to put a little excitement into a routinized relationship and its the perfect way to jump-start something fun from something friendly.
So, next time you're bored at work, boss has you feeling frustrated, computer is running slow, grab your phone, scroll through your phonebook, and let someone else know exactly how and why you're thinking of them....
The trend of today is text sex. Its not new (c'mon, Becks and his mysterious lover got caught exchanging their cheeky texts) but it has an allure far more intriguing than other mediums by which one can communicate their desire in an absentee fashion.
There is something inherently dirty about cyber-sex. Maybe its because its so often publicized as something that goes on between little children and the creeps who use them. Maybe its because it involves planning, or at the very least fortuidious timing--two people in front of computers, alone... No, for some reason cyber-sex in infinetely less attractive then text sex.
So too with phone sex. Phone sex, though less creepy then cyber-sex is overtly raunchy. I mean, you're on the telephone and you're supposed to be getting one another off, you're gonna have to be awfully graphic in your descriptions. Now some people like that, and if you're one of them, more power to ya, but some of us (yes, i'm including myself) are a little concerned with the "all talk no action" problem. Something more then description to back up all that talk....
Text sex, on the other hand, gets it just right. Its active, or rather, you can be active while doing it. As in, you're not chained to your computer all day. Your life can continue on in a normal fashion while exchaning cheeky, flirtatious, or even dirty messages with someone. No one is any the wiser. And most importantly its sustainable. Its about the luxury of foreplay not the exhausted climax. Its a game you can spread over hours, days, even weeks if you want. You can indulge after your morning coffee from work and not feel like a sex-starved maniac. Its lighthearted fun exchanged between *good* friends, lovers, partners, or relative strangers. Its an easy way to put a little excitement into a routinized relationship and its the perfect way to jump-start something fun from something friendly.
So, next time you're bored at work, boss has you feeling frustrated, computer is running slow, grab your phone, scroll through your phonebook, and let someone else know exactly how and why you're thinking of them....
| 46 |
| Vote |
Subscribe to this blog
Comment by Anonymous
Comment by Joanna
Comment by David
Not having a go here ... Just disagreeing ...
Phone sex? It leaves text-sex (of the mobile-phone or computer type) for dead ...
To actually hear each other's voices? The other person's voice? (Plus a lot of other sounds I'm not putting on here? How can that not rate as ascending the scale? ...
I know it's not the real thing ... but seriously? ... Texting by phone? Compared to actually hearing a person's voice? ...
This virtual world has got hold of people in a bigger way than I thought ... Impersonal sex wins? Not to me it doesn't ... Give me a woman's voice any day ... I'll get off on her breaths ...
(not saying I can't get off on her text messages ... but to me? The voice is one step away from touch ...
And this is the clincher to me: You find out whether you can really talk to each other ... Which seems to be what scares most people off taking that next step ... They have to get real? Take a risk? Actually face the possibility and probability of meeting in reality? ...
To me ... it's like this ... you make virtual contact (via text ... images ... [phone or net] ... Then? (you take the next step to phone convos ... (and then you take the third step to meeting in the real world? ... (and then? If both the physical and mental chemisty is as real in reality as it is in virtuality? ... you take step 4-Infinity ... but to stay in text sex mode? You have got to be kidding me, surely ... ? ... That's what the unreal and virtual do ...
David ...
Comment by Joanna
perhaps we are in disagreement about the goals of this endevour. forever, infinity, reality? not exactly what i had in mind. You lean towards romance or chemistry that goes far beyond what i'm describing.
The element of the impersonal is what makes text a wide net to cast. *friends* with whom you have no interest/intention/desire to know as well as the way you know them via the phone are still excellent candidates for text.
the point is in flirtation, and to be clear, this wasn't really supposed to be *dirty.* That's the beauty of text, it is as much a friendly "get to know you" activity as it is a serious invitation to the intimate. In fact, its much more friendly. Its about humour, about laughing and relaxing not desperately searching for meaning, connection or a combination of the two.
I wasn't advising those seeking the loves of their lives to indulge, rather offering a fun alternative to a drunken booty call. Grow some and do it sober, do it during the day. Its a message (loud and clear, believe me) that can at once be subtle and bold.