Too nice?
July 26th 2009 01:46
Can you be too nice and therefore used, abused and trodden on as others without this maddening quality push their way past you?
This thought occurred to me while a friend in med school who has a part-time job in retail was telling me about her troubles with a supervisor, who in essence, bullies her. She just takes it and is too nice to say anything about it. Nicest person you could meet, gets along well with everyone, yet she allows this to happen to her because she doesn't want to 'cause trouble'.
Her supervisor just sounds jealous to me, she's going to move on and become a doctor when she finishes med school, but what will he be doing? Bullying the next quiet employee who comes across his path, because he thinks he can?
You can be nice without being a doormat, nice people need to stand up for their rights. You don't need to be difficult about it, or cause trouble but you can't allow yourself to be bullied.
Her story is a familiar one, I've dealt with it myself, but I speak up. It doesn't always get you somewhere but at least you can tell them or someone higher than them what a jerk they're being.
Nice people often get trodden on by not so nice colleagues, friends or superiors, we've all seen it happen far too many times. I say that nice people should stand up for their rights, don't allow others to treat them badly, and should speak up.
There is nothing wrong with being nice, but you are too nice when you allow others to use this quality against you. Be nice, be ethical and responsible in what you do but don't allow your rights to be infringed!
This thought occurred to me while a friend in med school who has a part-time job in retail was telling me about her troubles with a supervisor, who in essence, bullies her. She just takes it and is too nice to say anything about it. Nicest person you could meet, gets along well with everyone, yet she allows this to happen to her because she doesn't want to 'cause trouble'.
Her supervisor just sounds jealous to me, she's going to move on and become a doctor when she finishes med school, but what will he be doing? Bullying the next quiet employee who comes across his path, because he thinks he can?
You can be nice without being a doormat, nice people need to stand up for their rights. You don't need to be difficult about it, or cause trouble but you can't allow yourself to be bullied.
Her story is a familiar one, I've dealt with it myself, but I speak up. It doesn't always get you somewhere but at least you can tell them or someone higher than them what a jerk they're being.
Nice people often get trodden on by not so nice colleagues, friends or superiors, we've all seen it happen far too many times. I say that nice people should stand up for their rights, don't allow others to treat them badly, and should speak up.
There is nothing wrong with being nice, but you are too nice when you allow others to use this quality against you. Be nice, be ethical and responsible in what you do but don't allow your rights to be infringed!
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